E2 - Ant Middleton: How to create and maintain a zero excuses mindset

When I drew up a list of dream names for the High Performance Podcast, Ant Middleton was right at the top of that list. An accomplished military career that includes the coveted King’s Badge as a Royal Marine, before joining the Special Boat Service - Ant’s whole career epitomises high performance. He is now best known as the Chief Instructor for Channel 4’s hit show, 'SAS : Who Dares Wins', but is also a best-selling author, motivational speaker and tours the UK with his ‘Mind Over Muscle’ brand. Listen to Ant share his stories and secrets to his high-performing mindset. Give this your time, hear him out, and you won’t regret it!

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# Podcast Episode Summary: High Performance Mindset with Anthony Middleton

**Guest:** Anthony Middleton, Former Royal Marine, TV Presenter, Public Speaker, Author

**Topics Discussed:**

1. **Definition of High Performance:**
- Self-belief is key, along with brutal honesty with oneself.
- High performance comes from realizing limitations, suffering hardships, and learning from failures.
- Self-belief leads to resilience and eventually high performance.

2. **The Fear Bubble:**
- Anthony talks about the fear bubble and how people often comment on his transformation.
- He acknowledges that he has changed and is proud of the person he has become.

3. **The Journey to High Performance:**
- Anthony shares that his journey to high performance was a result of hundreds of small moments and experiences.
- He emphasizes that self-reflection and brutal honesty with oneself are crucial for growth.

4. **Early Military Career:**
- Anthony explains that he didn't exhibit high performance in his early military years due to a lack of teamwork and an inflated ego.
- He realized that he needed to be part of a team to achieve greater things.

5. **The Job Center Incident:**
- Anthony shares a pivotal moment when he was jobless and sitting on the steps of a job center.
- This experience led him to self-reflect and confront his negative qualities, which became a catalyst for his transformation.

6. **Emotional Intelligence in Combat:**
- Anthony highlights his ability to switch between aggression and compassion during combat.
- He emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence in making quick and effective decisions in dangerous situations.

7. **Childhood and Emotional Development:**
- Anthony attributes his emotional intelligence to his childhood experiences, particularly the death of his father when he was five.
- He explains that he learned to self-reflect and control his emotions from a young age.

8. **The Importance of Self-Sufficiency:**
- Anthony stresses the value of self-sufficiency and independence, which he developed early on in life.
- He believes that being in control of oneself is essential for high performance.

9. **Limited Inner Circle:**
- Anthony reveals that he keeps his inner circle small and doesn't allow many people to see his vulnerable side.
- He believes that maintaining a certain level of privacy is necessary for his well-being.

10. **Dealing with Negativity:**
- Anthony emphasizes the importance of positive thinking and avoiding negativity.
- He credits his ability to stay positive despite witnessing immense negativity in his life as a key factor in his success.

11. **The Loneliness of High Performance:**
- Anthony acknowledges that his high-performance mindset can sometimes lead to loneliness and isolation.
- He explains that he has a few close friends but generally prefers to keep to himself.

12. **Handling Criticism:**
- Anthony discusses how he deals with criticism and negative feedback.
- He believes that constructive criticism can be beneficial, but he doesn't let negative comments affect his self-belief.

13. **The Value of Failure:**
- Anthony reiterates the importance of failure as a stepping stone to success.
- He encourages people to embrace failure and learn from their mistakes to achieve growth.

14. **Mindset Shift:**
- Anthony emphasizes the need for a mindset shift to achieve high performance.
- He believes that people should focus on their strengths, work on their weaknesses, and never give up on their goals.

15. **Final Thoughts:**
- Anthony concludes the podcast by encouraging listeners to take ownership of their lives, embrace challenges, and strive for excellence.

# Podcast Episode Summary: Achieving High Performance with Ant Middleton

## Introduction:

- Ant Middleton, a former military personnel and renowned motivational speaker, shares his insights on achieving high performance in various aspects of life.

## Key Points:

### 1. Focus on Self-Improvement:
- Eliminate distractions to maintain focus on personal growth and achievement.
- Take ownership of actions, decisions, and outcomes, avoiding excuses.
- Embrace challenges and learn from mistakes to facilitate personal development.

### 2. Cultivate a Positive Mindset:
- Surround yourself with positive influences to maintain a high-performance mindset.
- Prioritize self-care and well-being to optimize mental and physical performance.
- Embrace setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning.

### 3. Prioritize Family and Relationships:
- Balance personal and professional commitments to maintain healthy relationships.
- Openly communicate with loved ones about priorities and expectations.
- Seek support from family and friends during challenging times.

### 4. Embrace Challenges and Risks:
- Step outside of comfort zones to pursue ambitious goals.
- Embrace calculated risks to facilitate growth and learning.
- Maintain a positive attitude and unwavering determination in the face of adversity.

### 5. Continuously Seek Improvement:
- Strive for excellence in all endeavors, constantly seeking ways to improve.
- Set high standards for yourself and relentlessly pursue them.
- Celebrate successes and learn from failures, using them as stepping stones for growth.

### 6. Develop Resilience and Mental Toughness:
- Cultivate resilience to bounce back from setbacks and challenges.
- Develop mental toughness to overcome obstacles and persevere through difficult situations.
- Embrace a "never give up" attitude and maintain a strong belief in one's abilities.

### 7. Foster a Strong Work Ethic:
- Dedicate oneself to hard work and unwavering effort.
- Embrace discipline and consistency in daily routines and habits.
- Maintain a strong work ethic even when faced with challenges or setbacks.

## Conclusion:

- High performance is achievable through a combination of self-focus, positive mindset, embracing challenges, seeking continuous improvement, developing resilience, and fostering a strong work ethic.
- By adopting these principles, individuals can unlock their full potential and achieve success in various aspects of life.

# High-Performance Mindset: Unlocking Your Potential with Ant Middleton

In this captivating podcast episode, Damien and Jay engage in a thought-provoking conversation with Ant Middleton, a former military personnel, adventurer, and motivational speaker. Ant's journey from Special Boat Service to Chief Instructor on Channel 4's hit show, 'SAS: Who Dares Wins,' has equipped him with a wealth of knowledge and insights on achieving a high-performance mindset.

Ant emphasizes the importance of punctuality, manners, and first impressions as non-negotiable behaviors for individuals and teams. He believes that these qualities lay the foundation for building strong relationships and fostering a positive work environment.

Reflecting on his youth, Ant acknowledges the value of letting more people in and allowing mentors to play a role in personal development. He encourages listeners to seek guidance and support from individuals who can help them grow and achieve their full potential.

When asked about his happiness, Ant expresses immense contentment with his current role. He feels that he has found his true calling and is making a meaningful impact in the world. Legacy is also important to Ant, as he hopes to leave a solid foundation for his children to build upon.

Ant emphasizes the significance of positive thinking and self-honesty in achieving a high-performance life. He believes that individuals should avoid negativity and be brutally honest with themselves to tackle challenges effectively.

The discussion highlights Ant's unwavering belief in his mindset and his ability to maintain a positive outlook even in the face of adversity. This mindset has been instrumental in his success and has allowed him to overcome numerous obstacles throughout his life.

Ant's candidness and authenticity resonate with Damien and Jay, who appreciate his willingness to share his vulnerabilities and experiences. They acknowledge that while Ant's mindset may seem unattainable, it serves as a reminder of the potential for personal growth and transformation.

The conversation concludes with Ant's emphasis on the importance of emotional intelligence and understanding the human element in leadership. He believes that effective leaders should be able to connect with their team members on a personal level and inspire them to perform at their best.

Overall, this podcast episode offers valuable insights into the mindset and strategies of a high-performance individual. Ant Middleton's experiences and perspectives provide listeners with practical advice and inspiration to cultivate a positive mindset, embrace challenges, and achieve their full potential.

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[02:51.320 -> 02:55.600] Hi there, I'm Jay Comfrey. You're listening to High Performance, the podcast
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[03:03.960 -> 03:26.000] their success. As ever, I'm not flying solo. Damien Hughes is with us today. It's a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr a chweithwyr yw'r fath o'r un sy'n dweud y gwirionedd, yw'r fath o'r un sy'n dweud y gwirionedd, yw'r fath o'r un sy'n dweud y gwirionedd,
[03:26.000 -> 03:28.000] ac rwy'n credu ein gwestiwn nesaf
[03:28.000 -> 03:30.000] yn rhoi sylwadau ffasinatig ar hynny.
[03:30.000 -> 03:32.000] rwy'n credu eich bod chi'n iawn,
[03:32.000 -> 03:34.000] ac rwy'n credu ei fod yn ddyn
[03:34.000 -> 03:36.000] sy'n dweud y gwirionedd.
[03:36.000 -> 03:38.000] Yn fy mhobl,
[03:38.000 -> 03:40.000] ein gwestiwn yw'r epitome o gynhyrchion fawr,
[03:40.000 -> 03:42.000] y carrer fyddiol yn ymdrechu yn ôl i'w teimlau,
[03:42.000 -> 03:44.000] y cyfartal arall o'r rhan,
[03:44.000 -> 03:45.500] pan ddod o'r ffyrdd fel ymgynghorydd, cyn i fod yn dynion pwynt a sniper King's badge when he passed out as a Royal Marine before becoming a point man and a sniper in the special forces
[03:45.500 -> 03:52.280] He's now a TV presenter public speaker author. He even has his own brand bergamot and amber body wash
[03:52.280 -> 03:54.220] Have you got your own brand body wash?
[03:54.220 -> 03:56.220] No, not quite. You ever made in life
[03:58.260 -> 04:01.260] Please welcome to high-performance Anthony Middleton
[04:01.980 -> 04:04.680] Nice to have you with us, you know when you've made it, you know
[04:04.680 -> 04:06.400] You've made it when you've got a body wash right?
[04:06.400 -> 04:08.080] And I've also got a beard balm as well.
[04:08.080 -> 04:09.080] Have you?
[04:09.080 -> 04:10.080] Yeah.
[04:10.080 -> 04:11.080] Do you wash with your own body wash?
[04:11.080 -> 04:12.080] Of course.
[04:12.080 -> 04:13.080] So you're in the shower in the morning.
[04:13.080 -> 04:14.080] It smells nice.
[04:14.080 -> 04:15.080] My son nicks it off me, I promise you.
[04:15.080 -> 04:20.080] I did have quite a lot of input in it actually to be fair, so I made sure that it smelled
[04:20.080 -> 04:21.560] good and it smelled manly.
[04:21.560 -> 04:23.080] I love it.
[04:23.080 -> 04:26.400] What is your definition, Anthony, of high performance?
[04:26.400 -> 04:28.320] A self-belief.
[04:28.320 -> 04:33.160] It's key to everything in life, I think.
[04:34.440 -> 04:37.640] That comes with brutal honesty of oneself.
[04:37.640 -> 04:40.180] You have to be honest with yourself.
[04:40.180 -> 04:43.160] But self-belief only comes through
[04:43.160 -> 04:44.540] realizing where your boundaries are,
[04:44.540 -> 04:47.120] where your limitations are, suffering, hardship.
[04:47.840 -> 04:55.360] It's one of those where failure, believe it or not, again, I don't want to sound too cliche, failure is the key to self-belief.
[04:56.080 -> 05:00.960] Because if you can fail and get back up and re-attack and fail and get back up and re-attack,
[05:01.040 -> 05:07.880] but learn something every single time from that experience, you will eventually get there if you believe in it enough.
[05:07.880 -> 05:10.080] And then once you start to get there,
[05:10.080 -> 05:11.160] and once you start to realize,
[05:11.160 -> 05:14.880] actually, I'm a lot more resilient than I thought I was,
[05:14.880 -> 05:16.920] self-belief starts to kick in.
[05:16.920 -> 05:20.380] And once you nail self-belief, it almost,
[05:20.380 -> 05:23.820] but to a point where it hits that ego line,
[05:23.820 -> 05:26.840] that's when you can achieve amazing things.
[05:26.840 -> 05:28.920] And that's when not much phases you
[05:28.920 -> 05:31.400] because you generally believe that you can achieve
[05:31.400 -> 05:33.320] anything that you put your hand to.
[05:33.320 -> 05:36.480] Now, I believe that if a human has done it in life,
[05:36.480 -> 05:37.440] then I can achieve it,
[05:37.440 -> 05:39.360] whether it's climbing to the top of the world,
[05:39.360 -> 05:42.680] whether it's running a hundred meters,
[05:42.680 -> 05:44.120] under 10 seconds,
[05:44.120 -> 05:46.740] I generally believe that if I train hard enough and
[05:47.680 -> 05:53.920] I'll put the time and effort into it that I could achieve that because in your book the fear bubble you talk about
[05:54.340 -> 05:56.280] People coming up to you saying oh you've changed
[05:56.280 -> 05:56.680] Yeah
[05:56.680 -> 05:58.080] And and then you say yeah
[05:58.080 -> 06:01.080] I have because I am NOT the person I was when you knew me before and I'm delighted
[06:01.240 -> 06:04.560] I'm not that person and sadly you are the same person
[06:04.580 -> 06:04.720] Knew me before and I'm delighted. I'm not that person and sadly you are the same person
[06:10.220 -> 06:10.740] I'm interested to know the aunt Middleton sitting in front of us now is are you now the product of?
[06:14.620 -> 06:15.600] hundreds and hundreds of little tiny moments or was there one
[06:23.380 -> 06:24.260] Explosion in your head where you went that is the key. The door has just been opened. I see the light there is the answer
[06:26.240 -> 06:32.480] No, it's loads There are little things that accumulate to when it first started because I bet 16 if I'd have asked you that same question
[06:32.480 -> 06:34.800] You probably would have given me a completely different answer to it
[06:34.800 -> 06:38.560] It told me where I was today when I was 16. I would have just laughed it off
[06:38.920 -> 06:49.520] You know, I was just a young 16 year old that joined the military, you know, had a very bad military career, i.e. experience for my first four or five years to the point where I
[06:49.520 -> 06:55.080] left the army and then rejoined the Marines a couple of years later. It was
[06:55.080 -> 07:00.720] just something that I believe that I was good at, that I could do and I just
[07:00.720 -> 07:07.360] just chipped away at it. So why weren't you high performance in those early military years? I was but I
[07:08.040 -> 07:10.580] Didn't fit in I wasn't a team player
[07:10.580 -> 07:11.180] You know
[07:11.180 -> 07:14.760] I was almost wanted to be the best at everything and when I was the best at stuff
[07:14.960 -> 07:18.860] Anything I put my hand to I was the best at I'd be quite cocky and arrogant about it
[07:19.360 -> 07:29.300] And what you do you isolate yourself and then you know obviously being in the military a team player is is what it's all about and you can only get so far by
[07:29.300 -> 07:34.000] yourself and that's when I left the army and I thought to myself do you know what
[07:34.000 -> 07:37.620] I've smashed the beginning of my army career the reason why I didn't get on well
[07:37.620 -> 07:41.880] was because people were below me I was better than everyone else but what that
[07:41.880 -> 07:49.000] does you you sort of hit a ceiling you hit a plateau where you're just like right where else is there to go and you actually need people
[07:49.000 -> 07:54.600] around you to get you to that next level and it was just a case of I enjoyed what
[07:54.600 -> 07:58.780] I'd done I knew I was good at it but something wasn't sitting right and it
[07:58.780 -> 08:02.600] was that moment of calamity that I had as a youngster this was a moment of
[08:02.600 -> 08:07.080] saying my first stepping stone towards becoming
[08:07.080 -> 08:09.960] an elite athlete or elite individual,
[08:09.960 -> 08:12.240] however you want to look at it.
[08:12.240 -> 08:16.800] I was at the job center and I left the army
[08:16.800 -> 08:19.120] and I thought to myself, right, I'm gonna go in
[08:19.120 -> 08:21.240] and they're gonna give me, you know, look at my report.
[08:21.240 -> 08:23.240] My report was exemplary.
[08:23.240 -> 08:26.300] I'm gonna get whatever job I want. and I went in there and I left there
[08:26.300 -> 08:26.860] without a job
[08:26.860 -> 08:30.280] I remember walking down the steps of the job center when I was 22
[08:30.860 -> 08:35.860] And I sat down on the steps and I thought to myself. Well, how how are you here with?
[08:36.540 -> 08:41.960] everything that you've achieved and everything that you've done and that you know, you're capable of how you sat on the
[08:42.480 -> 08:45.400] Steps of a job center, jobless.
[08:45.400 -> 08:46.800] And I flipped that mirror on myself.
[08:46.800 -> 08:48.520] It's the first time in my life that I was
[08:48.520 -> 08:50.760] brutally honest with myself.
[08:50.760 -> 08:56.320] And I just concentrated on all my negatives and insecurities.
[08:56.320 -> 08:58.760] And it's like, my aunt, you're a big-headed little twat.
[08:58.760 -> 09:01.520] That's why you're sat on these steps.
[09:01.520 -> 09:03.040] You're not a team player.
[09:03.040 -> 09:07.960] Your ego has gone way over the line yn y steps hon, dydych chi ddim yn chwaraewr o'r tîm. Eich ego mae wedi mynd i ffwrdd o'r rhan nawr,
[09:07.960 -> 09:10.320] o'r hyder extrem i'r ego.
[09:10.320 -> 09:12.000] Yn siŵr, roedd gennych chi wedi cael y gwybod hwn
[09:12.000 -> 09:13.000] pan oeddech chi yn yr arme,
[09:13.000 -> 09:13.800] roedd eich cymdeithas yn mynd i ddweud,
[09:13.800 -> 09:14.800] rydych chi'n ddwch.
[09:14.800 -> 09:16.280] Ie, ond dydych chi ddim yn clywed ato.
[09:16.280 -> 09:17.200] Rydych chi'n dweud, ie, dwi'n ddwch,
[09:17.200 -> 09:18.000] ond rydw i'r cyntaf,
[09:18.000 -> 09:19.880] rydw i bob amser ar y ffron ar y rhan, nid ydw i?
[09:19.880 -> 09:21.760] Pan roeddwn i'n llyfro'ch llyfr,
[09:21.760 -> 09:23.520] y diwrnod cyntaf y miliwn,
[09:23.520 -> 09:26.000] pan wnaethwch chi'r cymryd,
[09:26.000 -> 09:28.000] a sgwrsawch chi am y syniad
[09:28.000 -> 09:30.000] eich bod chi'n eu cymryd ar y ffron
[09:30.000 -> 09:32.000] a'ch bod chi'n neud y ballau allan
[09:32.000 -> 09:34.000] ac nid ysgafnodd ar ôl i chi ddod yn gyntaf.
[09:34.000 -> 09:36.000] Ac mae'n debyg i mi
[09:36.000 -> 09:38.000] bod y cymryd
[09:38.000 -> 09:40.000] yn rhywbeth rydych chi'n ei wneud
[09:40.000 -> 09:42.000] ar gyfer amser byr,
[09:42.000 -> 09:44.000] rydych chi'n ymryd allan o rywbeth.
[09:44.000 -> 09:46.000] Ie, dwi'n ymuno â'r miliwyr i... Yeah, I joined the military to... I was always self-sufficient,
[09:46.000 -> 09:48.000] always wanted to stand on my own two feet.
[09:48.000 -> 09:50.000] I always excelled at what I'd done,
[09:50.000 -> 09:51.000] but then I got bored of it.
[09:51.000 -> 09:53.000] And then when I got bored of something,
[09:53.000 -> 09:54.000] I'd put my hand at something else,
[09:54.000 -> 09:56.000] I'd excel at that, and then I'd get bored at it.
[09:56.000 -> 09:58.000] I could have been a footballer, but I was just...
[09:58.000 -> 10:00.000] Got bored of it and just didn't enjoy doing it.
[10:00.000 -> 10:01.000] Now I went into athletics.
[10:01.000 -> 10:04.000] Again, you know, I was a sprinter.
[10:04.000 -> 10:05.000] I got bored of it.
[10:05.000 -> 10:10.000] It just gave me a sense of confidence, and I didn't realise it till later,
[10:10.000 -> 10:16.000] but it gave me this sort of understanding that if I put my mind to something that I really enjoyed,
[10:16.000 -> 10:18.000] it became obsessive to me.
[10:18.000 -> 10:26.540] I'd have this obsessive sort of addiction to perfecting it, to to controlling it to making it work for me
[10:26.540 -> 10:31.760] you know so as I sort of chipped away throughout my childhood you know
[10:31.760 -> 10:36.260] football we have one you I could show you all the trophies you know everything
[10:36.260 -> 10:40.960] I've got athletics the same you know then the military best recruit best PT
[10:40.960 -> 10:44.680] where the age of 16 it's just like you know this is almost too easy then when I
[10:44.680 -> 10:47.480] left the military and joined the Marines Kings Badgeman and
[10:47.480 -> 10:52.120] then you know made my way up to snipe selection past selection the first time
[10:52.120 -> 10:56.480] these all these small little events that have that happened that is they'd come
[10:56.480 -> 11:00.800] bigger and bigger and you almost confirming what you already know but
[11:00.800 -> 11:03.720] that can be a very dangerous thing to do because the moment you start confirming
[11:03.720 -> 11:06.800] that you're the best at everything that's when it starts trickling on, you know
[11:06.800 -> 11:12.860] you the extreme confidence starts biting you in the ass because you you know, your ego takes from one in place
[11:12.860 -> 11:17.200] But does that not make you a dangerous soldier though with that sense of ego?
[11:17.320 -> 11:21.960] no, because of I've never when it comes to that side of things
[11:22.920 -> 11:24.560] And I talk about
[11:24.560 -> 11:25.360] Emotions, you know, I'm a very emotionally connected individual when it comes to that side of things, and I talk about emotions,
[11:25.360 -> 11:27.920] I'm a very emotionally connected individual.
[11:27.920 -> 11:29.720] There's a danger of, people say,
[11:29.720 -> 11:30.840] you're thinking that you're the better,
[11:30.840 -> 11:33.760] yeah, never when I went into combat, into war,
[11:33.760 -> 11:35.360] did I ever think that I'd get shot.
[11:35.360 -> 11:37.840] Never ever thought there's a soldier on that battlefield
[11:37.840 -> 11:40.080] that was better than me, never in a million years,
[11:40.080 -> 11:41.640] but that's why I always got on that helicopter
[11:41.640 -> 11:44.120] on the way home, that's why I'm here today.
[11:44.120 -> 11:50.300] But there's this side to me, and I talk about this respectful this this polite this compassionate side to me
[11:50.500 -> 11:57.540] You know that I have you know, I know what's right and I know what's wrong, you know, and that's again it teeters on that edge
[11:57.540 -> 11:58.580] of
[11:58.580 -> 12:01.260] Expertise where I'm I'm gonna get it horribly wrong or horribly, right?
[12:01.260 -> 12:08.320] But I'm so emotionally connected that I get it right every single time so for example you know I've been into into a firefight
[12:08.320 -> 12:12.080] where I breached a compound and the whole place has erupted and we've done
[12:12.080 -> 12:16.600] what we needed to do in the compound and then you know from that firefight code
[12:16.600 -> 12:20.600] red aggression I've gone into a door burst into that door straight away gone
[12:20.600 -> 12:24.640] into the room you know finger on trigger and I've seen women and children you
[12:24.640 -> 12:26.000] know and that's when, and again,
[12:26.000 -> 12:28.200] this is another prominent point in my life
[12:29.160 -> 12:31.160] that I remember, that I knew that I wasn't a bully
[12:31.160 -> 12:34.680] with a weapon, I knew that my emotional intelligence
[12:34.680 -> 12:36.760] was really, really high because straight away
[12:36.760 -> 12:38.560] when I saw, boom, finger off trigger,
[12:38.560 -> 12:39.960] how am I gonna protect these women?
[12:39.960 -> 12:41.520] How am I gonna protect these children?
[12:41.520 -> 12:42.960] Boom, boom, boom, then I flicked straight back
[12:42.960 -> 12:45.400] into the next room and it'd be a fucking firefight again.
[12:45.400 -> 12:46.960] But then I'd get straight back into that mode of,
[12:46.960 -> 12:49.760] right, well, these, this flicking between the two,
[12:49.760 -> 12:51.000] I'm either, you know,
[12:51.000 -> 12:52.920] there's no sort of middle ground with me.
[12:52.920 -> 12:56.280] Where did that develop then, that emotional intelligence?
[12:56.280 -> 12:57.600] From a child, you know,
[12:57.600 -> 13:00.200] my father passed away when I was five years old.
[13:00.200 -> 13:01.600] And I talk about, you know,
[13:01.600 -> 13:03.320] finding a positive in every negative.
[13:03.320 -> 13:04.600] And as life has gone on,
[13:04.600 -> 13:06.920] I've sort of found so many positives in my father's death.
[13:06.920 -> 13:14.000] He died when I was five years old and within a couple of weeks a stepfather came in to
[13:14.000 -> 13:19.080] play and we up and moved to France, you know, within six months.
[13:19.080 -> 13:22.400] So obviously something had been going on before.
[13:22.400 -> 13:25.960] But the magnitude of the situation was so overwhelming at that age.
[13:25.960 -> 13:27.480] You can imagine, but I think at this stage,
[13:27.480 -> 13:30.740] I was six in France, new man in my life,
[13:30.740 -> 13:34.120] within six months, like what the hell is going on?
[13:34.120 -> 13:35.200] But what that allowed me to do,
[13:35.200 -> 13:36.480] I remember just thinking, you know,
[13:36.480 -> 13:39.000] almost the situation being so overwhelming
[13:39.000 -> 13:41.920] that I literally just ignored it and cut out my life.
[13:41.920 -> 13:44.860] And the thing that I could understand at six years old
[13:44.860 -> 13:48.000] was what I could control was myself.
[13:48.000 -> 13:50.000] So I started self-reflecting.
[13:50.000 -> 13:50.840] At six?
[13:50.840 -> 13:51.660] At six.
[13:51.660 -> 13:52.500] Wow.
[13:52.500 -> 13:55.600] I always used to self-reflect, self-reflect, self-reflect.
[13:55.600 -> 13:56.680] Why am I feeling like this?
[13:56.680 -> 13:57.520] What am I feeling like this?
[13:57.520 -> 13:58.840] You think that came from your dad's death,
[13:58.840 -> 13:59.680] leaving you a little-
[13:59.680 -> 14:00.500] 100%.
[14:00.500 -> 14:01.560] So when I asked you earlier,
[14:01.560 -> 14:03.800] your high performance mindset,
[14:03.800 -> 14:06.200] is it hundreds of little things or one moment?
[14:06.200 -> 14:09.500] Maybe, Anthony, it was the moment when your dad died.
[14:09.500 -> 14:11.360] Yeah, when you look back on things like that
[14:11.360 -> 14:13.600] in a way like that, yeah, it was,
[14:13.600 -> 14:16.100] but it's just a sequence of events
[14:16.100 -> 14:18.020] that has just fortified that.
[14:18.020 -> 14:20.680] You know, the death of my father was that sort of point
[14:20.680 -> 14:22.200] to the sort of earliest memory
[14:22.200 -> 14:24.120] where I can just remember sort of having
[14:24.120 -> 14:27.560] this out-of-body experience of, I couldn't even make sense of the world
[14:27.560 -> 14:30.760] you know I mean because you know different language, different school,
[14:30.760 -> 14:36.400] really isolated, different father, different it's just like oh and I can
[14:36.400 -> 14:38.960] remember having quite a good childhood even though it was a different
[14:38.960 -> 14:43.160] childhood I remember having a quite a good childhood because all I had to do
[14:43.160 -> 14:45.640] was think about myself and
[14:45.640 -> 14:48.720] that's why I talk about being someone that's self-sufficient, always wanted to
[14:48.720 -> 14:52.280] stand on my own two feet, always wanted to do because I could be in
[14:52.280 -> 14:56.240] control of that. Were you being loved by your mum and your stepdad at that point?
[14:56.240 -> 15:00.200] Yeah, yeah, there wasn't, you know, don't get me wrong, the step stepfather was, you
[15:00.200 -> 15:03.480] know, he ruled with an iron fist but they all did back then so I don't begrudge
[15:03.480 -> 15:05.400] any of that and it toughened me up as a lad but, you know, he ruled with an iron fist, but they all did back then so don't begrudge any of that and it toughened me up
[15:05.400 -> 15:09.960] As a lad, but you know this hard exterior that you build
[15:10.560 -> 15:13.400] You know, it's one of those where I believe that you know
[15:13.400 -> 15:19.680] You're setting stone from quite a young age and that's who you are. But then who would you say knows the real one?
[15:19.680 -> 15:26.200] So ultimately there'll be two or three people, I imagine, in your life that know
[15:26.200 -> 15:29.040] when you take all that armor and that different person's off.
[15:29.040 -> 15:31.640] No one, apart from myself.
[15:31.640 -> 15:32.960] Hold on, I can't let that go.
[15:32.960 -> 15:33.800] No.
[15:33.800 -> 15:34.620] Not your wife?
[15:34.620 -> 15:35.880] No.
[15:35.880 -> 15:36.720] Not your mum?
[15:37.680 -> 15:38.840] Don't talk to my mum.
[15:38.840 -> 15:39.680] So you-
[15:39.680 -> 15:42.640] My wife knows probably 80, 85%.
[15:42.640 -> 15:46.700] What does she, so what does she not know? I don't allow anyone to
[15:46.700 -> 15:52.440] ever enter that space. Why not? Because my space it's one of those where you know
[15:52.440 -> 15:55.840] there's stuff that you must keep you know that you must keep to yourself
[15:55.840 -> 16:01.400] there's thought processes that you must you must manage it's one of those where
[16:01.400 -> 16:06.840] if you spoke out if you spoke out loud with your thought process or you you let people in to a
[16:06.840 -> 16:08.840] certain level of emotion
[16:09.040 -> 16:11.840] Then there's nothing positive that's going to come out of it
[16:11.840 -> 16:17.640] So why why do it and I'm very much like that, you know, I'm a very very positive positive thinker
[16:17.640 -> 16:20.900] It's only because of I've dealt with so much negativity in my life
[16:21.600 -> 16:26.580] that the levels of negativity that I've witnessed done and being exposed to
[16:27.020 -> 16:32.120] If you yeah, if you don't think positively in those situations and probably wouldn't it wouldn't be here today
[16:32.120 -> 16:37.920] I'll probably you know being a different different headspace or probably being a different, you know a different career
[16:37.920 -> 16:41.080] It's so again, it's just about knowing yourself as well
[16:41.080 -> 16:44.320] And that's to a point where you do know yourself where you you know
[16:44.320 -> 16:46.140] Well, this is what people need to know this is what
[16:46.140 -> 16:49.280] people don't need to know this is what I never let out my locker right because
[16:49.280 -> 16:52.000] this is the these are an edge of loneliness to you because you've not
[16:52.000 -> 16:55.120] totally exposed yourself yeah I'm saying I'm still a still a loner you know I'm
[16:55.120 -> 16:59.000] still alone in that in that type of way you know I've got a lot of acquaintances
[16:59.000 -> 17:04.200] and I've got a lot of friends but you know when you talk about my social life
[17:04.200 -> 17:05.000] you know I'll just tap up one of those guys and go girls and go out with them ac rydw i ddim yn cael llawer o ffrindiau, ond pan rydych chi'n siarad am fy byd cymdeithasol,
[17:05.000 -> 17:10.000] byddwn i'n tyfu un o'r gyrwyr hynny, neu ffyrdd, ac fynd allan gyda nhw,
[17:10.000 -> 17:15.000] ond dwi ddim yn gwneud i unrhyw un ddod o'r blaen, os mae hynny'n syniad.
[17:15.000 -> 17:19.000] Felly roedd yna mewn ardal sy'n fy hymrydol iawn, a dwi eisiau gofyn i chi amdano,
[17:19.000 -> 17:22.000] ond rydw i am wneud hyn yn y byd, yn y ffordd sy'n ei gofyn yn llawn.
[17:22.000 -> 17:48.880] Dyma'r ffordd y mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'n dweud, mae'nhai o bobl sy'n ymddangos i chi bod yn dynol ac yn anodd, ac nid i'w gyrraeddu gyda'ch cyfansoddiad.
[17:48.880 -> 17:52.480] A gallaf weld bod y cydweithwyr, y cydweithwyr unigol,
[17:52.480 -> 17:55.560] yn cael eu hymdrechu gan y cyfansoddiad,
[17:55.560 -> 17:58.520] gan yr ego a'r holl ddangos o bopeth.
[17:58.520 -> 18:00.320] Pa bobl ar eich cyfan yn dweud i chi,
[18:00.320 -> 18:02.560] nid ydych chi'n dynol, nid ydych chi'n cael eich cyfansoddiad,
[18:02.560 -> 18:28.880] nid yw eich ego allan o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a'r fath o'r ddwch, a that sometimes lead us to trip up and fall and as somebody that is trained in the art of efficiency in the nature of what you do would it not be more
[18:28.880 -> 18:34.000] efficient to have one or two people that you would allow into that orbit that
[18:34.000 -> 18:37.000] could maybe help you avoid tripping up?
[18:37.000 -> 18:41.240] Yeah but it's like it's almost someone telling you about yourself you know I
[18:41.240 -> 18:44.480] believe that no one should know yourself better than yourself. I've been in
[18:44.480 -> 18:50.280] situations where I've been forced to act where I've been surprised and what I'm capable of
[18:51.040 -> 18:55.520] Being in in combat, right, you know, you talk about that fight-or-flight mode or you talk about
[18:56.120 -> 19:03.080] You know having to do what you need to do to get the job done and it's just like that was remarkably easy
[19:03.480 -> 19:05.740] Then it just allows me to put myself
[19:05.740 -> 19:07.800] into this position where,
[19:07.800 -> 19:09.280] yeah, I wanna be the first man through the door.
[19:09.280 -> 19:10.120] Does that bother you?
[19:10.120 -> 19:14.000] I wanna be this mind sweep in this minefield.
[19:14.000 -> 19:14.840] Who wants to do it?
[19:14.840 -> 19:15.680] Yeah, I do.
[19:15.680 -> 19:17.200] You know, I remember the fucking,
[19:17.200 -> 19:18.520] the first thing when someone said that,
[19:18.520 -> 19:21.400] and there's probably about a kilometer of minefield
[19:21.400 -> 19:23.440] to who, you know, what team wants to do it.
[19:23.440 -> 19:24.520] And I put my hand up straight away
[19:24.520 -> 19:25.280] and I just thought to myself, fucking hell, why did I do that it. And I put my hand up straight away and I just thought,
[19:25.280 -> 19:26.360] fucking hell, why did I do that?
[19:26.360 -> 19:28.080] And when I got on the ground, I was just like,
[19:28.080 -> 19:30.520] I was loving fucking mine sweeping, knowing that,
[19:30.520 -> 19:31.440] it's, you know what I mean?
[19:31.440 -> 19:34.880] But it was just, these are the things that I didn't realize
[19:34.880 -> 19:37.600] that I was capable of until I put myself in those situations
[19:37.600 -> 19:40.200] and sometimes, you know, I put myself in these situations
[19:40.200 -> 19:41.360] thinking, what have you done?
[19:41.360 -> 19:43.280] And this is it, but then I think to my,
[19:43.280 -> 19:45.060] when it's done, I'm like I'm so glad
[19:45.060 -> 19:48.460] I've done that, you know, I'm so glad I was first man on the target
[19:48.460 -> 19:52.620] I'm so glad I went through that and and and then I realized how I can deal with it
[19:52.740 -> 19:56.340] And I see the effects it has on some other people and it's not a case for me going to let me go
[19:56.340 -> 19:59.540] You know, I'm betting you I'm like this in a body deal with this better than you
[19:59.540 -> 20:02.860] Do you go through that and then think am I am I normal?
[20:02.900 -> 20:06.360] Let's say you've killed someone and five minutes later you have a game of cards you feel fine
[20:06.360 -> 20:10.720] Other soldiers might have to go and decompress and but go for counseling whatever they do
[20:11.000 -> 20:13.000] You sound like you don't need to do that
[20:13.000 -> 20:17.960] And I wonder whether you're totally comfy with that or whether you think I'm I
[20:18.240 -> 20:21.940] I'm gonna go for a period where I thought I was mentally ill when I was younger and went to counseling
[20:21.940 -> 20:25.960] It was it was a good thing to do. I was just sort of having a weird period as a teenager. I
[20:26.520 -> 20:29.320] Don't think you've probably never gone there. Have you you've never never
[20:29.320 -> 20:32.460] Why would you talk to someone about something that's going on in your head?
[20:32.460 -> 20:35.240] And again, you will only tell yourself what you know
[20:35.240 -> 20:38.400] You'll only be as honest and open with yourself then you want to be, you know
[20:38.400 -> 20:43.440] You can have someone pressing all these triggers and now you tell him sound because I think there's something about
[20:43.600 -> 20:45.280] It's the Einstein quote that the
[20:45.280 -> 20:49.280] mindset that creates a problem it can't always be the mindset that solves the
[20:49.280 -> 20:54.040] problem and somebody else being able to come in with a alternative view might
[20:54.040 -> 21:00.240] help you get there quicker. I agree with that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it'll probably help you get there quicker but um you know
[21:00.240 -> 21:04.560] sometimes there's not a problem and people are like you know people make a
[21:04.560 -> 21:05.600] problem out of it and you're just people make a problem out of it.
[21:05.600 -> 21:08.360] And you're just like, I'm perfectly fine with it.
[21:08.360 -> 21:12.000] It's almost this day and age where it's not OK to be OK.
[21:12.000 -> 21:13.960] And people say to me, and you've been through some,
[21:13.960 -> 21:15.040] how are you not messed up?
[21:15.040 -> 21:16.400] I'm like, because I'm not.
[21:16.400 -> 21:18.960] And again, my sympathy goes out.
[21:18.960 -> 21:21.920] And I've seen people that suffer from it.
[21:21.920 -> 21:23.600] And it's horrendous.
[21:23.600 -> 21:25.000] And I've got massive sympathy for that. I've got friends, good friends, that suffer from it. Mae pobl sy'n cael pethau o'r PTSD yn anodd. Mae gen i ddiddordeb mawr.
[21:25.000 -> 21:28.000] Mae gen i ddudwyr, ddudwyr da, sy'n cael pethau o'r PTSD.
[21:28.000 -> 21:30.000] Ond dwi ddim.
[21:30.000 -> 21:32.000] A dwi'n meddwl, a dwi'n meddwl?
[21:32.000 -> 21:34.000] Dwi'n meddwl, dwi'n meddwl, dwi'n meddwl?
[21:34.000 -> 21:36.000] A dwi'n meddwl, a dwi'n meddwl?
[21:36.000 -> 21:38.000] A dwi'n meddwl, a dwi'n meddwl?
[21:38.000 -> 21:40.000] A dwi'n meddwl, a dwi'n meddwl?
[21:40.000 -> 21:42.000] A dwi'n meddwl, a dwi'n meddwl?
[21:42.000 -> 21:44.000] A dwi'n meddwl, a dwi'n meddwl?
[21:44.000 -> 21:50.260] A dwi'n meddwl, a dwi'n meddwl? A dwi'n meddwl, a dwi'n meddwl? that was their own fault that they've unable to process. Yeah I just I think a key one is is is acknowledging the situation for what it
[21:50.260 -> 21:55.900] is you know it's like if someone's died or guess what they're dead you know
[21:55.900 -> 22:00.040] acknowledge this it's like there's nothing you can do about that you can
[22:00.040 -> 22:03.880] put all the negativity you can go for the process of mourning acceptance
[22:03.880 -> 22:07.080] blah blah blah this stepping stones to get you to where you need to be
[22:07.520 -> 22:11.360] But it's just you know people people ask themselves questions about
[22:12.000 -> 22:16.920] Whether what should have happened this would have should have quit that's not the real real world and that world does not exist
[22:17.120 -> 22:22.560] Why do you even dip into that world? It's like knowledge. What's the one thing? I can't do is bring that person
[22:22.560 -> 22:26.560] What's the one thing I change my actions to bring that person? What's one thing? I can't do is bring that person was one thing I change my actions to bring that person What's the ones that I can't rewind time?
[22:27.560 -> 22:32.000] That is how 99% of minds operate and they allow themselves to go there all the time
[22:32.000 -> 22:36.480] If you go back to example of you sweeping the minefield that was a kilometer minefield ahead of you
[22:36.480 -> 22:42.100] But what stage would you think about your wife and children of if I make a mistake if I trip up here and get this
[22:42.100 -> 22:45.320] Wrong, I wouldn't you compartmentalize that I still do that nowadays, you know when I'm at work, if I trip up here and get this wrong, I wouldn't, you compartmentalize that.
[22:45.320 -> 22:46.360] I still do that nowadays.
[22:46.360 -> 22:49.640] You know, when I'm at work, you know, I'm at work,
[22:49.640 -> 22:52.320] don't disturb me unless my children are in hospital
[22:52.320 -> 22:54.720] and there's something, an emergency,
[22:54.720 -> 22:57.200] then don't bring in any distractions,
[22:57.200 -> 23:00.360] one or two or three or 5% distractions into my work.
[23:00.360 -> 23:03.940] Let me focus 100% on my work
[23:03.940 -> 23:06.680] because that way I will achieve what I need to achieve
[23:06.680 -> 23:12.140] And also when it does go wrong, okay, I can't blame that one or two percent or three percent
[23:12.180 -> 23:16.640] I've only got one person to look at and that's myself no excuses
[23:16.640 -> 23:22.640] So I don't allow any of any of those distractions to come into into my world my life into my work because ultimately
[23:22.880 -> 23:26.380] That's what happens with people if I did get it right or wrong,
[23:26.380 -> 23:28.140] if I make the right decision or the wrong decision,
[23:28.140 -> 23:29.060] well, guess what?
[23:29.060 -> 23:31.300] I can take ownership of that,
[23:31.300 -> 23:32.500] because there's no distraction.
[23:32.500 -> 23:33.980] Then once you take ownership of it,
[23:33.980 -> 23:35.860] you can process what's gone wrong,
[23:35.860 -> 23:39.620] and you can execute what needs to be done and move on.
[23:39.620 -> 23:41.780] But it's like more distractions you have in your life,
[23:41.780 -> 23:46.700] the more excuses that you have to pin stuff to then the more you're gonna
[23:47.020 -> 23:52.340] Think negatively the more you're gonna you know, you're gonna trick yourself the more you're gonna fool yourself
[23:52.340 -> 23:56.520] Does that make that make so it's totally my elite mindset of a focus on myself
[23:56.520 -> 23:57.780] What do I need to change?
[23:57.780 -> 24:03.380] But my question then is around before you make that commitment to go in and do whatever it is
[24:03.380 -> 24:07.600] You're gonna face is at what stage before you make that commitment. Do you think? cyn i chi wneud y cyfathrebu i fynd i mewn a gwneud beth bynnag y byddwch chi'n mynd i'w wynebu, yw, ar pa ffas oedran cyn i chi wneud y cyfathrebu,
[24:07.600 -> 24:09.120] ydych chi'n meddwl,
[24:09.120 -> 24:11.560] dwi'n person gwahanol, dwi'n mynd i ffwrdd i'r amser,
[24:11.560 -> 24:14.560] ac rwy'n nawr father, rwy'n nawr ffwrddwyr,
[24:14.560 -> 24:18.640] ac felly dwi'n eithaf ddim yn mynd i mewn i'r sefyllfa
[24:18.640 -> 24:21.320] a oedd yn digwydd gyda fy nhau'n gyntaf.
[24:21.320 -> 24:22.160] Felly sut rydych chi'n rhannu'r cyfathrebu hwnnw?
[24:22.160 -> 24:23.920] Wel, nawr rwy'n cael fy nghymryd ychydig o hynny.
[24:23.920 -> 24:26.480] Y peth a ddangos i mewn i'r ffysgrifion. Felly sut rydych chi'n ychwanegu hynny? Wel, nawr rydw i'n cael fy nghyfro o'r hynny. Y peth a ddod o'r ôl
[24:26.480 -> 24:28.320] oedd Everest.
[24:28.320 -> 24:30.080] Yn ystod fy mod i wedi gwneud Everest,
[24:30.080 -> 24:31.200] roeddwn i'n ymdrechio'n ystorm.
[24:31.200 -> 24:32.400] Ac rwy'n cofio,
[24:32.400 -> 24:33.120] ymdrechion y half,
[24:33.120 -> 24:35.040] unwaith wnaethom fy ngwyrion,
[24:35.040 -> 24:35.840] y mae'r cameraman wedi dweud,
[24:35.840 -> 24:37.160] Ant, rydych chi'n gwneud eisiau.
[24:37.160 -> 24:38.880] Nid oeddent yn ymwneud â
[24:38.880 -> 24:39.840] 6,000 ffyrdd o'r blaen,
[24:39.840 -> 24:40.880] a dywedodd,
[24:40.880 -> 24:42.000] ac yna,
[24:42.000 -> 24:42.640] yn ystod y cyfnod,
[24:42.640 -> 24:43.440] mae'r storm yn dod.
[24:43.440 -> 24:44.400] Ac rydw i'n dweud,
[24:44.400 -> 24:48.240] rydyn ni'n mynd i fynd ymdrechion y storm. A oedd yn dweud, na, na, na, Ant. Rydw i wedi dweud, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedodd, dywedod said that you and then lo and behold this storm comes in my I'm like we're going up during the storms you like no no and you listen I'm said you can't go
[24:48.240 -> 24:51.940] up during the storms it's like I'm like no listen follow me up join what was
[24:51.940 -> 24:56.740] that about I've heard your book about that why in the storm why not because
[24:56.740 -> 25:00.280] they well hundreds of people are stood on the summit of Mount Everest and a
[25:00.280 -> 25:04.360] nice sunny day yeah I don't want to take the easy option yeah why would I want I
[25:04.360 -> 25:07.120] want to stand on the summit of the world on a nice sunny day. I don't want to take the easy option. Why would I want to stand on the summit of the world
[25:07.120 -> 25:08.160] on a nice sunny day?
[25:08.160 -> 25:11.760] Well, the answer is because one day you might find the limit
[25:11.760 -> 25:13.320] and the limit might be death.
[25:13.320 -> 25:16.320] Yeah, but I haven't found that yet, so.
[25:16.320 -> 25:17.640] Don't have to worry about that.
[25:17.640 -> 25:18.880] Don't keep looking for it.
[25:18.880 -> 25:20.280] What's your wife's name?
[25:20.280 -> 25:20.800] Emily.
[25:20.800 -> 25:23.200] So does Emily say, Anthony?
[25:23.200 -> 25:24.800] Yeah, no, after that it's...
[25:24.800 -> 25:27.000] You've got kids and me to think about.
[25:27.000 -> 25:30.000] Hey, I'm Ryan Reynolds.
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[27:59.200 -> 28:05.000] to 15 bucks a month at mintmobile.com.hpp. Additional taxes, fees and restrictions apply. y blynyddoedd. Yn ystod y blynyddoedd, rydych chi wedi'i ddod yn eich hunain, yn ddiweddarach, yn ddiweddarach,
[28:05.000 -> 28:08.000] ond yna rydych chi wedi'i ddod i mewn i sefydliad o'r tîm,
[28:08.000 -> 28:09.000] os oedd yn y dyrfodol,
[28:09.000 -> 28:12.000] felly rydych chi'n unigol elit yn mynd i mewn i sefydliad o'r tîm,
[28:12.000 -> 28:15.000] lle nid yw pob un yn rhannu'r un oedolbwyntiaeth,
[28:15.000 -> 28:16.000] ac mae'n rhaid i'ch teulu,
[28:16.000 -> 28:17.000] efallai,
[28:17.000 -> 28:19.000] i fynd i gael teulu gyda Emily.
[28:19.000 -> 28:20.000] Ie.
[28:20.000 -> 28:21.000] Ie.
[28:21.000 -> 28:22.000] Ie.
[28:22.000 -> 28:23.000] Ie.
[28:23.000 -> 28:24.000] Ie.
[28:24.000 -> 28:49.920] Ie. Ie. Ie. Ie. Ie. i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn i mewn You know when I was in the military, I prioritized the military my family and children came second And you now feel that you're good enough right without having to validate yourself with achievements
[28:51.200 -> 28:56.080] Yeah, no, I'm definitely has like you achieve nothing else. Yeah for the next 50 years
[28:56.080 -> 29:03.420] I know you're the kind of guy that likes to achieve stuff. Would you still be a content person? No, I've realized more more
[29:03.920 -> 29:06.240] I probably say over the last three
[29:06.240 -> 29:13.700] or four years, the importance of a team, especially when I'd say your body
[29:13.700 -> 29:19.280] starts to sort of suffer a bit more. But I'm not worried about that, but I
[29:19.280 -> 29:23.480] obviously acknowledge it, even when I was at my most fittest in the
[29:23.480 -> 29:25.680] Special Forces, you know, you have to be an athlete
[29:25.680 -> 29:28.040] plus standard of fitness to pass selection.
[29:28.040 -> 29:28.880] Fact.
[29:28.880 -> 29:32.560] My mind has always seemed fitter,
[29:32.560 -> 29:34.680] and has always seemed to be the driving force of,
[29:34.680 -> 29:38.320] I never, you know, I never saw myself as an athlete,
[29:38.320 -> 29:40.280] even though I was at that status,
[29:40.280 -> 29:44.120] but it was because my mind was always evolving.
[29:48.000 -> 29:49.000] But now that I'm in a completely different career, completely different headspace,
[29:49.000 -> 29:52.000] and I realized what I used to do wasn't normal,
[29:52.000 -> 29:56.000] it's one of those where I jumped in the deep end
[29:56.000 -> 29:57.000] with dive boots on,
[29:57.000 -> 30:00.000] and I'm having to rely on my team now
[30:00.000 -> 30:02.000] to keep my head above water
[30:02.000 -> 30:04.000] because I've still got that mindset
[30:04.000 -> 30:07.280] and that sort of way of you know
[30:07.280 -> 30:11.920] just tackle everything head-on just be honest and say you're on there like well well when this doesn't
[30:11.920 -> 30:17.600] doesn't quite work like that out here. People do appreciate that but this day and age in society
[30:17.600 -> 30:21.840] you've got to uh you've got to let us take lead on it. That's what I've struggled with the last
[30:21.840 -> 30:28.760] couple of years is to really let go of of certain, of certain strings on my bow and go, you know what, you can take charge
[30:28.760 -> 30:32.720] of that, you can take, but to a point where I'm still even a nightmare about it, you know,
[30:32.720 -> 30:36.840] I still crawl up that rope and pop my head up and go, why are you, you managing this
[30:36.840 -> 30:40.320] quickly? What are you worried about then? What do you not? No, I'm not worried about
[30:40.320 -> 30:44.000] anything. I just like things done properly. You know, I like, I like to things done properly.
[30:44.000 -> 30:48.060] I like to be transparent about things. I like to be honest about things and a sad state
[30:48.060 -> 30:52.540] of affairs that we're finding ourselves in in this day and age is honesty is classed
[30:52.540 -> 30:58.340] as bullying right so you're being honest and all of a sudden you can't say that and because
[30:58.340 -> 31:02.260] you'll be in is it how you deliver the honesty though or do you think we're in a place now
[31:02.260 -> 31:09.760] we're just telling someone I disagree with you is... No, not even telling someone I disagree, but telling them, listen,
[31:09.760 -> 31:14.300] you're useless at your job. I suggest you find another job. And again, that's the way
[31:14.300 -> 31:19.680] society goes. And I talk about it, you know, I have a prime example of levels of standards
[31:19.680 -> 31:23.600] that are dropping more and more and more because nowadays, you know, rather than messing up
[31:23.600 -> 31:26.960] at work and me, for example, pulling into the office and going,
[31:26.960 -> 31:29.400] bloody hell, that was horrendous.
[31:29.400 -> 31:30.920] What were you thinking of?
[31:30.920 -> 31:32.040] You know, you've got one more chance,
[31:32.040 -> 31:33.320] if not, you're out the door.
[31:33.320 -> 31:35.200] Nowadays, I bring them in and go, you know,
[31:35.200 -> 31:37.200] you could have done better.
[31:37.200 -> 31:40.560] It was okay, it was okay, but you could have done better.
[31:40.560 -> 31:42.320] You know, maybe next time think, you know,
[31:42.320 -> 31:44.360] all this molly cuddling and pampering,
[31:44.360 -> 31:45.520] but all of a sudden, what that does, it engages your brain where you know, all this molly cuddling and pampering, but all of a sudden what that does,
[31:45.520 -> 31:47.520] it engages your brain where you know,
[31:47.520 -> 31:49.800] you haven't been up to scratch or you know that you,
[31:49.800 -> 31:51.640] you know, that you didn't do that correctly
[31:51.640 -> 31:52.740] or your standards have dropped,
[31:52.740 -> 31:54.520] but then people are going, no, it's okay.
[31:54.520 -> 31:55.440] You know, don't worry about it.
[31:55.440 -> 31:57.160] Just make sure you tackle it in this way.
[31:57.160 -> 31:58.080] Just talk about it.
[31:58.080 -> 31:58.920] Let's go through it.
[31:58.920 -> 32:01.480] And all of a sudden when you get multiple people
[32:01.480 -> 32:03.000] like that that tell you that you go, oh, right.
[32:03.000 -> 32:04.960] It wasn't as bad as I thought it was.
[32:04.960 -> 32:08.640] Maybe that was okay. You know, even though you're lying to yourself, right?
[32:08.640 -> 32:13.260] Could you know that was shit? I should have done a lot better, but people are saying actually it's not too bad
[32:13.260 -> 32:16.640] You know, it was you know, you you didn't so much fail
[32:16.640 -> 32:17.260] But yeah
[32:17.260 -> 32:22.040] You did fail and then what you do you your standards drop and drop and drop and drop and drop and drop and drop and
[32:22.040 -> 32:24.040] Drop to a level that's not acceptable
[32:24.040 -> 32:28.120] And then all of a sudden someone comes in in and tells you, you get what happens, you become
[32:28.120 -> 32:33.280] offended. You start to pass the blame. It's this whole, there's a whole knock on effect
[32:33.280 -> 32:37.120] to not being honest. And when I'm talking about being honest, I'm talking about, yeah,
[32:37.120 -> 32:42.120] there is a way of saying it, but being brutally honest, black and white, was it, was it, did
[32:42.120 -> 32:47.000] you achieve what you, no, why didn't you achieve what you... Because your performance was horrendous.
[32:47.000 -> 32:51.000] You see, I see all of that on a weekly basis in the world that I existed in, that elite sports world.
[32:51.000 -> 32:57.000] That is still how that world works. If you're not good enough to make the Arsenal first team, you are out of the door.
[32:57.000 -> 33:04.000] If you are a goalkeeper and the ball goes through your legs, you are not just criticized by the manager and the players, but everyone around you.
[33:04.000 -> 33:09.000] And it's one of these things that I don't think that we give elite individuals the credit that they deserve
[33:09.000 -> 33:15.360] I think 100 everyone would love to be a professional footballer a professional Formula One driver a special forces soldier
[33:15.360 -> 33:17.360] I honestly believe
[33:17.640 -> 33:22.320] 99.9% of people could not push themselves to the limits you need to go to to get there
[33:22.320 -> 33:24.560] Look, but I when he's lazy people say right
[33:24.560 -> 33:26.640] You've probably not trained one day in your life
[33:26.640 -> 33:28.600] as hard as he's trained every single day
[33:28.600 -> 33:30.560] to play professional sport.
[33:30.560 -> 33:32.760] We all sit and we all criticize happily, don't we?
[33:32.760 -> 33:34.600] And think everyone's useless.
[33:34.600 -> 33:37.520] But very few people really can get themselves
[33:37.520 -> 33:38.720] into that elite space, I think.
[33:38.720 -> 33:41.040] And it's a mindset, it's an elite mindset.
[33:41.040 -> 33:41.880] And do you know what?
[33:41.880 -> 33:43.480] I don't like to use that word elite
[33:43.480 -> 33:49.400] because elite for me is just doing the basics to a high standard consistently.
[33:49.400 -> 33:54.280] Right? And you try doing the basics to a high standard consistently that's very
[33:54.280 -> 33:57.720] very hard. Can everyone be a high performance person? Yeah they can I
[33:57.720 -> 34:02.640] generally believe that but it's just it's just the mindset that that lacks
[34:02.640 -> 34:06.080] it's like you can train I could go well I could go away right now I could give you a training program to go away train for a year you could probably be you Mae'r syniad sy'n ddifrif, mae'n dweud, gallwch chi hyfforddi, gallwn i fynd ymlaen ar hyn o bryd,
[34:06.080 -> 34:07.360] gallwn i'ch rhoi rhaglen hyfforddi,
[34:07.360 -> 34:08.960] i fynd ymlaen i hyfforddi am flwyddyn,
[34:08.960 -> 34:10.480] gallwch chi efallai fod,
[34:10.480 -> 34:11.680] os oes gennych y cyfnod o amser,
[34:11.680 -> 34:13.520] gallwch chi efallai fod yn y ffyns fwyaf o fywyd.
[34:13.520 -> 34:15.160] Byddwn hefyd yn argymhell
[34:15.160 -> 34:16.640] ein bod ni'n cymryd
[34:16.640 -> 34:18.960] nifer o ddifrif o ddifrif
[34:18.960 -> 34:20.400] i'r bwrdd, felly,
[34:20.400 -> 34:22.400] dywedwch, gallwn i ffynnu
[34:22.400 -> 34:23.840] y 100 o metrau yn 12 eiliad,
[34:23.840 -> 34:25.000] ac rwy'n credu y gallaf hyfforddi
[34:25.000 -> 34:29.000] ac y gallaf fod yn well o'r lefel o ddifrifolion y mae gen i
[34:29.000 -> 34:32.000] ond dwi ddim yn credu y gallaf
[34:32.000 -> 34:35.000] ymgyrchu ag y finalistau olympiwyr 100m.
[34:35.000 -> 34:37.000] Dwi'n gwybod, ond dyna'r rhai.
[34:37.000 -> 34:42.000] Dwi ddim wedi ymgyrchu am ddwy o blwyddyn
[34:42.000 -> 34:46.760] ac y cyntaf y gyfnod rydw i wedi ei wneud gyda'r USN was against a sprinter. I got 12 seconds
[34:47.040 -> 34:52.160] It's and again again it all goes down to mindset on how you absorb how you learn the techniques
[34:52.160 -> 34:58.800] It's like once I engulf myself into something, you know, I I'm obsessed with it, you know like people
[34:59.320 -> 35:01.440] when I you know when I left them the
[35:02.320 -> 35:06.220] Special forces, you know, I've always been in trouble, you know
[35:06.220 -> 35:08.220] When I go out drinking, you know
[35:08.240 -> 35:13.360] When I used to you know, always never be the bully but always find myself getting in trouble and they say and you're one of
[35:13.360 -> 35:17.360] These annoying people that are good at everything, but you're also good at getting in trouble
[35:17.560 -> 35:20.740] It's because you know when I went out someone started a fight with my mate just be
[35:21.200 -> 35:25.080] Drinking wouldn't matter anymore. Just be right, we need to sort this situation out.
[35:25.080 -> 35:28.640] And it's like, you know, so I've got an addictive personality
[35:28.640 -> 35:31.360] but I've also seen the negative sides to that.
[35:31.360 -> 35:35.120] You know, my addictive personality has ended up in prison.
[35:35.120 -> 35:36.280] I've ended up in prison cells.
[35:36.280 -> 35:37.720] I've ended up heavily drinking.
[35:37.720 -> 35:38.760] I've ended up fighting.
[35:38.760 -> 35:39.720] I've ended up, you know,
[35:39.720 -> 35:41.760] it's got its negative effects to it as well.
[35:41.760 -> 35:42.920] I don't just think, right,
[35:42.920 -> 35:44.480] what I put my mind at, I can achieve.
[35:44.480 -> 35:46.320] It's like when I find myself in a situation
[35:46.320 -> 35:48.200] that I'm enjoying and I'm like,
[35:48.200 -> 35:50.440] you know, I used to drink till the fucking cows come home.
[35:50.440 -> 35:52.080] You know, you wouldn't out drink me, you know.
[35:52.080 -> 35:53.200] Talk about a negative, you know,
[35:53.200 -> 35:55.000] then all of a sudden the alcohol starts to get a grip
[35:55.000 -> 35:57.080] with you and you're like, well, I need to rein this in.
[35:57.080 -> 35:58.960] You know, being honest for yourself, you're like, woo.
[35:58.960 -> 36:00.600] So where did the self-awareness,
[36:00.600 -> 36:02.640] the willingness to look at yourself?
[36:02.640 -> 36:04.600] And so, you know what, there's a pattern of drinking here
[36:04.600 -> 36:07.620] that's leading me into trouble. Do you know me into trouble is when I was at a funeral
[36:07.620 -> 36:13.820] so is that a funeral for for a power and they're all Marines and obviously you
[36:13.820 -> 36:16.200] know I say obviously but you drink heavily in the Marines you know it's all
[36:16.200 -> 36:20.740] about weekends and yeah when you're on camp anyway and I can remember a funeral
[36:20.740 -> 36:28.000] being at a funeral and just asking this person where this person was that was dead.
[36:28.000 -> 36:32.000] I remember thinking, I was going, where is so and so? And they were looking at me as a complete lunatic.
[36:32.000 -> 36:36.000] They were like, what the hell are you on about? I'm like, well, where is he? Come on, fucking hell.
[36:36.000 -> 36:45.360] He's meant to be part of the group. And then I just remember saying his name and then thinking, fuck, he's dead.
[36:45.360 -> 36:46.520] So were you drunk or were you?
[36:46.520 -> 36:47.560] Yeah, I was drunk.
[36:47.560 -> 36:48.680] Yeah, I was drunk.
[36:48.680 -> 36:51.640] I thought to myself, wow, alcohol, you know, made me,
[36:51.640 -> 36:53.280] you know, I've always been aware when I've been drinking.
[36:53.280 -> 36:55.520] I've always been a, and it got to a point where I,
[36:55.520 -> 36:58.040] you know, I was starting to forget or starting to,
[36:58.040 -> 37:00.440] you know, be a useless drunk, shall we say, you know,
[37:00.440 -> 37:03.840] where I just, and I've always been self-aware like that.
[37:03.840 -> 37:08.420] And that's when, that was one of the first moments I thought and you're drinking too much mate because
[37:08.700 -> 37:13.040] What the hell and after I said that and I realized what I said I fucked off
[37:13.040 -> 37:15.840] I left the party is like it's like it's almost like a
[37:16.960 -> 37:20.340] Well, and you need to go because you're not in control of yourself
[37:20.340 -> 37:23.500] So that's the other thing if you're really brutally honest with yourself you punish yourself
[37:23.500 -> 37:27.400] I guess when you when you know that you've overstepped the mark you still drink no
[37:28.080 -> 37:33.340] Occasionally, yeah, no, no, I don't I don't go and go and get smashed. No, but it's one of those where
[37:34.680 -> 37:40.680] Alcohol is done nothing but bring negativity to my life and again, I've never had a problem with it
[37:40.680 -> 37:43.440] But you know, it I drink and it'd be fine fine fine
[37:43.440 -> 37:45.400] And then you know some things were happening.
[37:45.400 -> 37:48.000] It's just like, wow, it's just, that's due to alcohol.
[37:48.000 -> 37:50.240] That's due to me not being myself and not thinking.
[37:50.240 -> 37:54.680] But that's really interesting because you say you've never had a problem and yet you
[37:54.680 -> 37:57.480] also attribute that's what led you to a prison cell.
[37:57.480 -> 37:58.480] Yeah, yeah.
[37:58.480 -> 38:03.160] But it's not, it's again, you know, it's, it's holding up, you know, it's being accountable
[38:03.160 -> 38:04.160] for your actions.
[38:04.160 -> 38:07.600] I got into a fight and ended up badly hurting someone.
[38:07.600 -> 38:10.440] And yeah, the alcohol was to blame for my decision-making,
[38:10.440 -> 38:12.440] but it wasn't to blame for my actions.
[38:12.440 -> 38:13.280] You know, it's like,
[38:13.280 -> 38:15.240] do I deserve to go to prison?
[38:15.240 -> 38:16.080] Absolutely.
[38:16.080 -> 38:16.900] Will I do my time?
[38:16.900 -> 38:17.740] Have I got any excuses?
[38:17.740 -> 38:18.580] No.
[38:18.580 -> 38:21.520] And again, when I went to prison,
[38:21.520 -> 38:23.280] I'd just left the military.
[38:23.280 -> 38:27.760] And I remember my lawyer, he was rubbing his hands.
[38:27.760 -> 38:30.680] He was like, you've just left the military, haven't you?
[38:30.680 -> 38:32.280] I was like, yeah.
[38:32.280 -> 38:33.440] He said, how long ago?
[38:33.440 -> 38:34.480] I went six months ago.
[38:34.480 -> 38:35.480] He went, brilliant.
[38:35.480 -> 38:36.920] He said, how many tours of Afghanistan do you do?
[38:36.920 -> 38:38.000] I said, three.
[38:38.000 -> 38:38.840] He went, what reason?
[38:38.840 -> 38:40.240] I went, yeah, just literally just, you know,
[38:40.240 -> 38:41.760] got back not long ago.
[38:41.760 -> 38:42.880] He was like, excellent.
[38:42.880 -> 38:45.040] He's like, and do you wanna go to prison? I'm like, of course I don't wanna go to prison. He's like excellent. He's like my aunt. We do wanna. Do you wanna go to prison?
[38:45.040 -> 38:48.780] I'm like of course. I don't want to go to prison. He's like well. You've got PTSD
[38:49.440 -> 38:55.000] And I'm like what do you mean? I've got PTSD said and he said if you say you got PTSD
[38:55.120 -> 38:59.000] This is exact words. He went. I promise you you will not go to prison
[38:59.040 -> 39:03.440] He said I'll write a report you get a slap on the wrist. He said I guarantee you with what you've done
[39:03.440 -> 39:07.560] you're background he said you go off you you do a course and said you'll be at home your family and
[39:08.680 -> 39:14.060] I looked him I said I can't I can't do that. I haven't got PTSD. I can't say that
[39:14.060 -> 39:17.280] I said I got drunk and I said I end up in a fucking fight and up hurting someone
[39:17.280 -> 39:19.520] I deserve to be in for let me do my time
[39:20.240 -> 39:24.320] And that's exactly what I done. I went it went to prison done my time and but long did you do?
[39:24.320 -> 39:30.120] I got I got sentenced to 14 months. So I done that. Yeah, and you say in your book the minute they shut the cell door
[39:30.200 -> 39:32.200] Yeah positive mindset. Yeah, exactly
[39:32.200 -> 39:36.640] No, the moment the hammer went down remember the moment my wife was there and I just said to I said, I love you
[39:36.640 -> 39:40.540] I'll see you soon. I don't talk about priorities just being different now prioritized
[39:40.540 -> 39:49.560] You know same common denominator every single time whether it's positive or negative One person that's always there and it's my wife and I'm just like wow listen
[39:49.560 -> 39:53.680] I if not only do I to myself but listen I owe it to you special
[39:53.680 -> 39:58.000] And yeah, and that's when I when I when I when I got out pretty now my life started turning around for you know
[39:58.000 -> 40:00.000] I started focusing
[40:00.200 -> 40:02.800] my energy and on everything positive
[40:02.800 -> 40:05.540] That's when I really made that positive and negative changes.
[40:05.540 -> 40:07.400] Like, is anything positive?
[40:07.400 -> 40:08.580] No, don't do it.
[40:08.580 -> 40:10.760] It could there be a negative, yeah, well, don't do it.
[40:10.760 -> 40:13.080] You know, last five, six years
[40:13.080 -> 40:15.520] I've cut off all my friends, I've cut off all, you know,
[40:15.520 -> 40:17.520] I bounced between work and family, work and family,
[40:17.520 -> 40:20.160] work and family, I prioritize family now,
[40:20.160 -> 40:21.760] but also work comes very close.
[40:21.760 -> 40:23.480] If one suffers, the other's gonna suffer.
[40:23.480 -> 40:26.880] And I don't allow that social life to come into play
[40:27.540 -> 40:32.040] Because it's too much of a temptation and what I mean by it's too much of a temptation
[40:32.040 -> 40:34.000] It's like of course I want to go and have fun course
[40:34.000 -> 40:39.580] I want to go is anything positive gonna come out of it necessarily no, but that's what I love about life
[40:40.120 -> 40:46.400] It's like I need to make them mistakes to learn and then when I learn I grow when I grow I become a better version Of myself and more aware. I'm wiser Mae'n dweud, rhaid i mi wneud y pethau i ddysgu, ac yna wrth ddysgu, rydw i'n groes, ac wrth groes, rydw i'n dod yn ffurfio'n fwy,
[40:46.400 -> 40:48.520] rydw i'n fwy ysbrydol, rydw i'n fwy'n ddwys,
[40:48.520 -> 40:52.120] rydw i'n fwy, rydw i'n ddysgu mwy am fy hun.
[40:52.120 -> 40:55.000] Rydw i ddim yn ddiddorol, oherwydd dydych chi'n fath hefyd,
[40:55.000 -> 40:57.520] ac rydw i'n sylfaenol bod pobl yn clywed y podcast hon
[40:57.520 -> 41:02.160] yn meddwl amdano o'r gwledydd honno.
[41:02.160 -> 41:06.000] Rydych chi wedi neillio'r anodd o'ch bywyd, os oes gennych chi'r gynllunau, yn eich hun, yn ffysig neu'n dynol, i'woddau hynny, rydych chi wedi gwneud ymdrechion o'ch bywyd,
[41:06.000 -> 41:08.000] os oes gennych chi'r gynllunau
[41:08.000 -> 41:10.000] yn eich bod chi'n teimlo'n ffysig neu'n mentol,
[41:10.000 -> 41:12.000] i'w wneud hynny, ond mae'n rhaid
[41:12.000 -> 41:14.000] i'ch plant ddod o le
[41:14.000 -> 41:16.000] mewn sefyllfaoedd
[41:16.000 -> 41:18.000] sy'n cynnwys amgylchedd,
[41:18.000 -> 41:20.000] os oes yn dechrau ysgol newydd,
[41:20.000 -> 41:22.000] neu yn gwneud ysgol newydd,
[41:22.000 -> 41:24.000] neu'n gweithredu newydd.
[41:24.000 -> 41:27.000] Sut rydych chi'n eu helpu ar eu bywyd? How do you help them on their journey? I push them into doing things that they want to do.
[41:27.000 -> 41:30.520] You know, I think we've become a nation of lazy parenting
[41:30.520 -> 41:32.600] when someone won't go right at school and it's come back,
[41:32.600 -> 41:34.040] well, it's not your fault, it's their fault.
[41:34.040 -> 41:36.520] You know, we don't spend enough time with our children.
[41:36.520 -> 41:38.280] We don't spend enough time pushing them
[41:38.280 -> 41:40.320] and forcing them into stuff.
[41:40.320 -> 41:42.440] You know, I force my children to do stuff
[41:42.440 -> 41:43.840] whether they like it or not.
[41:43.840 -> 41:47.840] And I'm only forcing them through love and through personal development
[41:48.220 -> 41:51.700] There's nothing malicious in it. There's nothing negative in it. I'm forcing
[41:51.700 -> 41:53.920] I know you don't want to do that son, but you're gonna do it
[41:54.320 -> 41:59.000] Bosh, you know whoever I push him into climbing a ladder where then he gets to the top of the ladder
[41:59.000 -> 42:03.520] He's like it's not that bad is it if I didn't force you to do that you wouldn't know what you're capable of and
[42:04.120 -> 42:09.640] Swimming you know my son was like just pushed him into the into the into the shallow end
[42:09.640 -> 42:13.380] You know knowing that my wife's that side and you know, he's like no no no boom
[42:13.380 -> 42:17.600] But well actually and then I jumped in there and held him in the water. I'm like, it's not that bad
[42:17.600 -> 42:18.040] Is it son?
[42:18.040 -> 42:21.440] And you know got the parents that I'm nodding ahead and I can't get him out the water now
[42:21.440 -> 42:24.960] I can you know, it's like and again people that could have had a negative
[42:24.960 -> 42:25.000] I don't live in that world could have should I can you know, it's like and again people that could have had a negative
[42:25.000 -> 42:28.280] I don't live in that world could have should have would have it didn't have a negative effect
[42:28.280 -> 42:32.920] I know what do it like, you know, I mean, it's like what he wants to be something different though. Like I
[42:33.480 -> 42:38.600] You talking in your book about putting getting to karate gets a smack in the face and bloody nose
[42:38.880 -> 42:41.680] Like maybe your son just wants to be a painter
[42:42.200 -> 42:47.360] And doesn't want to be a combat you did and that was great for you, but your son's not you is he?
[42:47.360 -> 42:51.420] Yeah, no when he's you know, it's one of those where if I see that he's not enjoying it
[42:51.420 -> 42:55.560] Then then I'll you know, I won't I won't sort of force the issue
[42:55.960 -> 42:57.200] but um
[42:57.200 -> 43:02.680] You know, you're not forced him to do certain things. You're teaching them that sometimes in life the only way through it
[43:03.840 -> 43:08.000] Resilience and try to push him into the water and I've got nothing of it then I wouldn't keep pushing him into the water
[43:08.000 -> 43:12.180] You know, it's like but I'll force him to do stuff just so they can go what I like that
[43:12.180 -> 43:17.360] Oh, I don't like that. And you know some things I get right some things I get wrong, but everything that I do is is
[43:18.120 -> 43:22.960] Through love, you know, and I always say to people do what the hell you want to do
[43:22.960 -> 43:26.520] I said as long as as your actions aren't malicious
[43:26.520 -> 43:28.880] and you don't go out to offend,
[43:28.880 -> 43:30.320] then you're always gonna offend someone.
[43:30.320 -> 43:32.240] You're always gonna upset a situation.
[43:32.240 -> 43:33.880] Do not let those distractions come in.
[43:33.880 -> 43:34.960] In your heart of hearts,
[43:34.960 -> 43:36.280] if you think that's the right thing to do
[43:36.280 -> 43:37.680] and you don't think, do it.
[43:37.680 -> 43:39.460] And you'll find out whether it's right or wrong.
[43:39.460 -> 43:41.520] And if it's right, well, guess what?
[43:41.520 -> 43:42.340] You keep doing it.
[43:42.340 -> 43:44.600] If it's wrong, change it up.
[43:44.600 -> 43:45.720] But you know, or if it's, you know up, but you know who if it's you know
[43:45.720 -> 43:47.780] If that's and that's that's what I say to my children
[43:47.780 -> 43:50.600] I say, you know stay innocent stay pure because listen
[43:50.640 -> 43:56.040] It won't be like that of your whole life and you'll soon learn what's right and what's wrong and I'll be there to guide you
[43:56.040 -> 43:58.140] Through it, but I will I will be pushing you know
[43:58.140 -> 44:00.500] We will be forcing to do a lot of things that you don't like
[44:00.680 -> 44:07.680] I guarantee you when you have children you did the complete opposite of the complete opposite of what I didn't like and what I didn't like and
[44:07.680 -> 44:10.520] the complete opposite what you did like and that's how
[44:10.520 -> 44:15.560] evolution goes on but I think that we as parents don't hold up to our
[44:15.560 -> 44:19.040] responsibilities of being honest with our children, letting them know
[44:19.040 -> 44:23.600] that you know listen there's two sides to every story, this whole blame culture
[44:23.600 -> 44:28.940] and so you know I spend the time I am with my children I spend time, I sit down with them. People
[44:28.940 -> 44:33.640] find it weird that I sit down and I talk to my son and all of a
[44:33.640 -> 44:38.360] sudden he's out in the garden climbing a tree and just in his box of shorts
[44:38.360 -> 44:41.400] because I've gone to him, I go on and if you think you can, if you think you can let Tuff go out
[44:41.400 -> 44:44.840] there and people are like what's he doing? I'm like don't worry about him he's fine
[44:44.840 -> 44:45.080] you know he's fine.
[44:45.080 -> 44:46.960] You know, he's climbing a tree in his boxer shorts
[44:46.960 -> 44:48.560] cause I've just, you know, told him, you know,
[44:48.560 -> 44:50.820] that if you set your mind to things and, you know,
[44:50.820 -> 44:52.840] take each step at it, you know,
[44:52.840 -> 44:56.320] and I just think as in society now,
[44:56.320 -> 45:00.000] we're in danger of becoming a nation of lazy parents
[45:00.000 -> 45:01.720] and lazy adults, you know,
[45:01.720 -> 45:03.760] because adults are acting like children
[45:03.760 -> 45:05.900] and children are acting like babies. You know, it's like adults, come on. Do you know, because adults are acting like children and children are acting like babies.
[45:05.900 -> 45:07.700] You know, it's like adults, come on.
[45:07.700 -> 45:08.540] Do you know what I mean?
[45:08.540 -> 45:09.360] Be an adult.
[45:09.360 -> 45:10.680] You know, people are looking up to you.
[45:10.680 -> 45:12.120] Lead by example.
[45:12.120 -> 45:14.080] You know, it's like, that's what,
[45:14.080 -> 45:16.040] more adults that I see acting like children.
[45:16.040 -> 45:18.880] No wonder children, teenagers are acting like babies.
[45:18.880 -> 45:21.160] Of course, of course it's going in the reverse effect
[45:21.160 -> 45:22.240] because it starts from the top
[45:22.240 -> 45:23.760] and it trickles all the way down.
[45:23.760 -> 45:25.980] You know, and unfortunately we still have this generation
[45:25.980 -> 45:28.640] of our granddads who are, you know,
[45:28.640 -> 45:31.120] hard and sort of resilient sort of individuals
[45:31.120 -> 45:32.880] that have passed it on to our generation.
[45:32.880 -> 45:34.960] But I think it's so important that we keep that.
[45:34.960 -> 45:36.360] And again, we move along with the times.
[45:36.360 -> 45:38.740] I'm all for that 100% move along with it,
[45:38.740 -> 45:41.440] but we keep this old school resilience
[45:41.440 -> 45:44.240] that have made us the people we are today.
[45:44.240 -> 45:46.900] Listen, thank you so much for your time. I came in
[45:46.900 -> 45:53.100] I'm a firm believer in people separating fault and responsibility. We constantly look at fault. We don't take responsibility
[45:53.300 -> 45:55.620] I believe in the growth mindset. I
[45:56.260 -> 46:03.060] Hate the victim culture and I'm I believe that you 100% take responsibility for every single thing that happens in your life, right?
[46:03.540 -> 46:06.560] Positive or you are so many miles ahead of me. It's unbelievable
[46:06.880 -> 46:11.840] I came into this thing and I've got this nail man. She's I've got a long journey to go
[46:12.640 -> 46:15.840] Before we go a few really quick questions that we want to just throw your way
[46:16.320 -> 46:19.920] It won't take very long just sort of a short quick fire thing three
[46:20.400 -> 46:24.120] non-negotiable behaviors that you and the people around you must buy into
[46:25.420 -> 46:26.640] punctuality
[46:28.640 -> 46:29.520] manners and
[46:35.740 -> 46:36.000] First impressions, I think that they go a long way, you know, don't tip up in in rag order at least be presentable
[46:39.240 -> 46:39.800] What advice would you give a teenage on that was just starting out?
[46:41.320 -> 46:43.560] I Would say let more people in
[46:44.440 -> 46:51.320] Just you know, I've I'm figuring that out in the last later years of my life, and I think I'd be a lot more
[46:52.120 -> 46:55.800] Advanced if I'd allowed that to happen a younger age
[46:55.800 -> 46:59.800] So it definitely be you know, let more people have it's a mentor whether it's you know
[46:59.800 -> 47:06.040] People are generally interested in in in developing you. I wish I would have done that at an earlier age.
[47:06.040 -> 47:07.280] Are you happy?
[47:07.280 -> 47:08.120] Extremely.
[47:09.520 -> 47:12.400] It's strange because, you know, when you're in your job,
[47:12.400 -> 47:13.480] when I was in the Special Forces,
[47:13.480 -> 47:15.520] I thought I was made for that.
[47:15.520 -> 47:17.120] But now I'm in this job,
[47:17.120 -> 47:20.440] I believe that this is my belonging, this is my calling.
[47:20.440 -> 47:22.480] I feel out of everything that I've done in my life,
[47:22.480 -> 47:24.560] this is exactly where I'm supposed to be.
[47:24.560 -> 47:28.340] How important is legacy to you? I think you know if I can leave
[47:29.080 -> 47:31.080] You know a solid foundation
[47:31.600 -> 47:33.880] For my children to build on which I didn't have
[47:34.280 -> 47:41.720] Then we've we've we've done our work and the final question for people listening to this your one piece of advice for them to live
[47:41.720 -> 47:48.960] A more high-performance life just think positively, you know, we live in a society full of negativity.
[47:48.960 -> 47:51.440] Be brutally honest with yourself.
[47:51.440 -> 47:55.040] If you're brutally honest with yourself, it allows you to be brutally honest with other people.
[47:55.040 -> 48:00.480] If you find yourself in a negative situation, you cannot tackle that negative situation with a negative mindset.
[48:00.480 -> 48:03.040] If you lie to yourself, you're going to live a lie.
[48:04.880 -> 48:05.000] Damien, Jay. If you lie to yourself, you're gonna live a lie.
[48:07.840 -> 48:10.680] Damien, Jay, that was fascinating.
[48:13.680 -> 48:16.960] We say that a lot, but what really stood out for me was that he has, as far as I can tell,
[48:16.960 -> 48:20.540] an absolutely rock solid, unshakable belief
[48:21.980 -> 48:23.560] in his own mindset.
[48:23.560 -> 48:26.720] And that's a difficult place to get to, but I imagine if he genuinely believes everything yn ystod y gwybodaeth sy'n ei ddod o'r iawn. Ac mae'n le cymhlaen i gael,
[48:26.720 -> 48:29.280] ond rwy'n meddwl, os yw'n credu'n ddiwethaf
[48:29.280 -> 48:30.880] yr hyn rydyn ni'n ei ddweud,
[48:30.880 -> 48:33.600] mae'n rhaid hefyd fod yn le fwy hyfryd i fod.
[48:33.600 -> 48:35.160] Mae'n hyfryd a'n llun.
[48:35.160 -> 48:36.000] Iawn, ie.
[48:36.000 -> 48:37.120] A oedd y peth arall?
[48:37.120 -> 48:38.880] Rwy'n cydnabod y syniad o'r ffaith
[48:38.880 -> 48:42.480] y byddai'r holl beth y gallwch chi ei gofyn
[48:42.480 -> 48:44.560] yn eithaf sefydlogol,
[48:44.560 -> 48:47.000] ond yn unigol i edrych ar y rhan a'i meddwl nad yw pob un arall yn cydnabod â chi,
[48:47.000 -> 48:51.000] yn amlwg yn dylu i leolau'n anodd, dwi'n meddwl.
[48:51.000 -> 48:54.000] Oherwydd ni i gyd, dyma'n ddweud, ein bod ni'n treulio'n amser
[48:54.000 -> 48:57.000] eisiau i feddwl ar ein hunain 100%,
[48:57.000 -> 48:59.000] mae wedi cyrraedd y lle hwn.
[48:59.000 -> 49:02.000] Felly, pan ddewisodd y staff yma,
[49:02.000 -> 49:04.000] a oeddech chi'n teimlo'n ddiddorol o'i hun,
[49:04.000 -> 49:05.000] neu ydych chi'n ddiddisodd y stwyfn yma,
[49:05.000 -> 49:09.000] a oeddech chi'n teimlo'n ddymor odyn nhw, neu ydych chi'n glir bod eich meddwl?
[49:09.000 -> 49:13.000] Rwy'n credu bod yna rhan o'r fath, a dwi'n edrych arno,
[49:13.000 -> 49:15.000] a dwi'n credu y gallwn ei wneud gyda phopeth mwy o hynny.
[49:15.000 -> 49:20.000] Er enghraifft, bydd y positibiti'n ddiddorol hynny'n ein cymryd i ni i gyd.
[49:20.000 -> 49:25.240] Ond roedd yna rhan fwyaf o'r gallu i'w ffynnu o fewn grwp,
[49:25.240 -> 49:27.640] os oes hwnna'n teimlad neu'n tîm,
[49:27.640 -> 49:30.640] rwy'n credu ei fod yn anoddo'r hynny'n fwy,
[49:30.640 -> 49:34.440] ac rwy'n credu bod y syniad o'r llunio hwnnw ddim yn rhywbeth rydw i'n ei ymdrechu.
[49:34.440 -> 49:35.640] Beth am eich hun?
[49:35.640 -> 49:36.840] D'ydych chi'n gwybod beth?
[49:36.840 -> 49:39.960] Rwy'n gwneud yn dda iawn o'r ffordd o ddim bod yn perffect.
[49:39.960 -> 49:42.160] Rhan o'r rheswm rydw i eisiau ei wneud y podcast hon,
[49:42.160 -> 49:45.960] yw bod rwy'n credu bod rwy'n dda iawn ar fod yn positif. Rwy'n paratoi llawer o'r amser i siarad â phobl eraill am positifiaeth. Part of the reason I wanted to do this podcast right is that I think that I'm pretty good at being positive
[49:45.960 -> 49:48.720] I spent a lot of my time talking to other people about positivity
[49:48.840 -> 49:56.260] I've spent my life around elite athletes who have only got where they've got to with genuine belief in themselves and real dedication
[49:57.320 -> 50:02.120] And I know that I'm not there yet. And I think if I was where aunt was I might be thinking
[50:02.920 -> 50:06.000] Where where next like I'm sort of made it, you know, he believes in absolutely everything oeddwn i'r lle oedd Ant, byddwn i'n meddwl, parwyn, dwi'n gwneud hynny,
[50:06.000 -> 50:09.000] mae'n credu yn unrhywbeth sy'n ei wneud,
[50:09.000 -> 50:12.000] ond rwy'n mwynhau'r ffordd o ddod allan
[50:12.000 -> 50:15.000] ychydig mwy am fy hun, ac rwy'n gwybod dwi ddim yn perffect,
[50:15.000 -> 50:18.000] ac dwi ddim yn credu dwi'n gwybod unrhyw ddyn.
[50:18.000 -> 50:21.000] Rwy'n credu y byddai'n gweld ei hun yn perffect,
[50:21.000 -> 50:23.000] ond dwi'n credu.
[50:23.000 -> 50:47.640] Rwy'n dynion. Ac er mwyn i mi ddweud ei syniad am fod yn ddiogel
[50:47.640 -> 50:50.320] yn ddiogel â phobl sy ddim yn cyd-dod â nhw
[50:50.320 -> 50:53.160] a rhoi ystyried ymdrechion a'r cymorth,
[50:53.160 -> 50:56.000] dydych chi ddim yn dda eno, mae angen i chi gael eich well.
[50:56.000 -> 50:58.000] Rwy'n credu hefyd, mae rhywbeth ynghylch gwneud hynny
[50:58.000 -> 51:02.080] gyda phel-dyn o ddiddorol, ac o ddiddorol, ac o ddiddorol,
[51:02.080 -> 51:04.680] nad oedd Ant yn ymddangos hwnnw.
[51:04.680 -> 51:06.000] Dwi ddim yn dweud nad yw'n ei wneud, ond ddim yn ymddangos hwnnw. Dwi'n meddwl ei fod yn eidiogel, nid oedd Ant yn ymdrechu hynny. Dwi ddim yn dweud nad yw e'n gwneud hynny,
[51:06.000 -> 51:08.000] ond nad oedd e'n ymdrechu hynny.
[51:08.000 -> 51:10.000] Dw i'n credu ei fod yn gwneud hynny,
[51:10.000 -> 51:12.000] oherwydd rhaid i chi ddweud hynny i bobl,
[51:12.000 -> 51:14.000] y byddwch chi mewn sefydliad mewniwyr,
[51:14.000 -> 51:16.000] neu fel y mae ar hyn o bryd yn sefydliad cyfryngau.
[51:16.000 -> 51:18.000] Mae pobl yn fy niond yn siarad llawer,
[51:18.000 -> 51:20.000] ond dwi ddim wedi clywed pethau da amdanyn nhw fel person.
[51:20.000 -> 51:22.000] Mae e'n ddiddorol, ddiddorol,
[51:22.000 -> 51:24.000] ddiddorol, ddiddorol,
[51:24.000 -> 51:25.840] a dyna'r cyfle, y byddwch chi'n myndriendlyd, yn ffriendlyd, yn ffriendlyd, ac mae'n ymwneud â'r cyd-dod, yw'n i, gyda'r,
[51:25.840 -> 51:26.280] ar,
[51:26.280 -> 51:27.560] dydych chi'n mynd i fod fel fi.
[51:27.560 -> 51:28.200] Ydych chi'n gwybod?
[51:28.200 -> 51:28.920] Ie, ie,
[51:28.920 -> 51:30.720] ac rwy'n credu,
[51:30.720 -> 51:31.800] o'r hyn rydych chi'n ei ddysgu
[51:31.800 -> 51:34.120] a phobl yn siarad amdano,
[51:34.120 -> 51:36.240] mae'n rhoi'r ddewis o'r dealltaf emosiynol
[51:36.240 -> 51:37.920] y mae'n dweud ei fod yn gynnwys
[51:37.920 -> 51:38.800] yn ymwneud â'r llaw.
[51:38.800 -> 51:40.480] Rwy'n credu roedd yn rhoi
[51:40.480 -> 51:41.640] y rhan o weithredoedd
[51:41.640 -> 51:43.480] yn ymhellach i'r dynion dynol
[51:43.480 -> 51:45.500] o sut rydych chi'n rhoi pobl gyda'i. Y gwybod beth? Mae'n ymwneud â'r soldiwr perffaith, yw hi, The performance bit as opposed to the human element of how you bring people with him. You know what?
[51:46.060 -> 51:48.100] He's almost a perfect soldier, isn't he?
[51:48.100 -> 51:53.540] When he talks about his mindset and everything that's everything he's been through it's almost like this is how he is
[51:53.540 -> 51:55.640] And he's tailored everything in his life to fit
[51:56.140 -> 52:02.640] With the kind of person that he is and my goodness so successful now of clearly an incredible soldier
[52:02.640 -> 52:07.360] He was in the special forces for goodness sakes and um, and he's learned his lessons along the way remarkable Mae'n ddiddorol iawn o ddynion anhygoel, yn y sgwrs bwysig, diolch i'w gwybodaeth, ac mae'n dysgu ei ffyrdd y tu hwnnw.
[52:07.360 -> 52:08.160] Mae'n ddiddorol.
[52:08.160 -> 52:10.920] Mae yna ffrasau ddiddorol y ddefnyddia Alex Ferguson,
[52:10.920 -> 52:13.520] a dweud i'r chwaraewyr ym Mhanses United,
[52:13.520 -> 52:15.840] y dylid ymweld â'ch ddrau a'ch hawliau,
[52:15.840 -> 52:17.920] ac y dylid yw'n ddiddorol iawn bod y bobl hwnnw
[52:17.920 -> 52:19.960] yn mynd i'r batau gyda chi.
[52:19.960 -> 52:21.720] Ac roedd y ffrasau hwnnw yn ymddangos
[52:21.720 -> 52:22.560] wrth fy meddwl o Ant,
[52:22.560 -> 52:24.240] a meddwl, ydych chi'n meddwl,
[52:24.240 -> 52:25.920] fod ar ddrau allan, a'ch bod chi'n mynd i'r ffyrdd o'r ffras hwnnw oedd yn ymddangos wrth fy meddwl o'n i, a gofynodd, ydych chi'n meddwl, fod yn y tu allan o'r dŵr
[52:25.920 -> 52:27.660] pan oeddech chi'n mynd i'r ffyrdd i'r ffyrdd ffyrdd,
[52:27.660 -> 52:30.000] rwy'n credu y byddwch chi'n cael sylwad o
[52:30.000 -> 52:31.400] ymddygiad a'r hyder
[52:31.400 -> 52:33.320] fod yn eich ysgolwg.
[52:33.320 -> 52:34.440] Ac rwy'n credu
[52:34.440 -> 52:36.560] mae hynny'n eithaf gwych o'r ystyried
[52:36.560 -> 52:39.200] i'r meddwl hwnnw sydd gyda ni heddiw.
[52:40.380 -> 52:41.120] Wow,
[52:41.120 -> 52:42.800] beth oedd Guy-Ann Middleton.
[52:42.800 -> 52:43.760] Os oes gennych ddiddordeb hwnnw,
[52:43.760 -> 52:49.320] byddwn i'n hoffi os oes gennych ddod o'r cyfrifiad i ni. Ac wrth gwrs, os gwel leave a review for us, and of course, please subscribe to high performance. I promise it's worth it
[52:49.420 -> 52:53.500] Thanks so much to Tom Griffin from rethink audio for his help and do keep an eye
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